It is important to understand that true intimacy often begins in the mind. Yes, two people can feel arousal in their bodies and jump into bed. That is not the same thing. Real intimacy, which can include fetishes, various kinks, and the unraveling of certain defenses, must be mentally explored as much as physically. Otherwise, sex becomes like a tired stick of gum. It will lose its flavor eventually if two people cannot mentally connect and take the time to really learn about their partner and their partner’s needs.
I believe it is important to take full advantage of a rich fantasy life, if you happen to be lucky enough to have one. Fantasies are a healthy way for the mind to travel to sensual places. It is important to include your partner as much as possible in these travels. Airfare is free. There are no limits to where the mind can go when immersed in a fantasy.
It is perfectly fine to fantasize on your own, without sharing your fantasies with anybody. After all, they are your fantasies. You own them. Nobody can take them away from you. I am merely suggesting that sharing your deep inner fantasies with your partner will give them a front row glimpse into your own sensual projection room. Your partner will have the pleasure of sharing your personal fantasies with you. They will also have a better idea as to what turns you on and what your sexual triggers are. Tickling is an amazing and very powerful sexual trigger for some people.
Sexual triggers are often fetishes, or as I discussed previously, phrases that add to a sexual experience. In certain fantasies about tickling, verbal triggers are often used and can sometimes be a fabulous precursor to the actual tickling that takes place.
Here is a scenario that I find very sexy. This is a very typical fantasy for somebody who loves tickling.
I am sitting in a restaurant with the guy of my dreams. He keeps staring at me, undressing me with his eyes. Perhaps he notices I am a bit moody. He reaches under the table and lightly caresses my knee, knowing that it will tickle slightly and elicit a little blush and a giggle.
Then he uses the trigger phrase:
“Does that tickle?”
I begin to feel a warm flush all over my body. Perhaps the white wine is adding to this sensation, making it increasingly difficult for me to remain composed. I start to laugh out of pure embarrassment. My loss of control is making me hotter and hotter between my thighs. I am afraid the whole restaurant will hear me laughing and that everybody in the room will know that my partner is tickling me under the table. My fetish will be exposed and I will be unable to control how turned on I’m becoming.
My partner leans forward and speaks to me in a very sexy, sultry tone.
“When we get home, I am going to tickle the crap out of you. There will be no discussion in the matter. I am going to strip you down, tie your arms up over your head and tickle you for as long as I please.”
I can’t wait for him to get the check, so we can hurry home for my tickle session. He makes me wait, flirting with me shamelessly for the next hour or so. I suddenly become a bit terrified of him getting the check. Excitement is permeating throughout my entire body. My panty crotch is soaked. My face is beet red and my heart is pounding with delicious anticipation.
He gets the check and chuckles, as I gasp quietly. He takes me home and then, well you can imagine the rest.
I just shared one of my fantasies. What are your fantasies? What fantasies lie deep inside of you and do you feel sometimes like sharing them with a trusted partner? The fantasy I just shared is definitely something I would want to share with a partner.
It is important to have a partner who wants to hear your fantasies and help fulfill them. Your partner should also learn all your trigger phrases and use them generously, as you should also do with your partner. I would not settle for anything less and neither should you. The more you and your partner understand each other’s needs and desires, the more sexually fulfilling your relationship will be. Most tickle lovers know that the best tickling often begins in the mind. The mind is an extremely important vehicle to a happy and fulfilling sex life.
Copyright © 2015 Veronica Frances